WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS WHEN I KNOW BETTER?
Private transformational therapy and coaching with Tracey Anderson Askew BOOK A PATTERN CLARITY CALLRelationship Issues / Attachment Styles
Anxiety / Panic / Depression
Anger / Suppressed Sadness
Confidence / Motivation / Procrastination
Reactivity To Significant Relationships
Sometimes knowing better isn’t enough.
You can understand the pattern.
You can even know where it came from.
You can read the books, listen to the podcasts, journal about it, talk about it and
promise yourself…
“Next time, I’m going to do this differently.”
And then the trigger arrives.
And there you are again.
Reacting.
Anxious and Depressed
People-pleasing.
Shutting down
Procrastinating.
Getting angry.
Doubting yourself.
Or somehow finding yourself back in the same familiar place.
It can be incredibly frustrating.
Especially when you’re intelligent, self-aware and you really do want things to
change.
But sometimes the problem isn’t a lack of information.
Sometimes the pattern sits deeper than conscious thought.
That’s where I work.
Tell me what keeps happening and what you would dearly love to experience
instead.
CREATE CHANGE FROM THE INSIDE OUT
Many of our automatic thoughts, emotional responses and behaviours have been
learned over time.
They become familiar, reactive, like the default settings of your mind.
They can show up before the rational part of our brain has had a chance to catch up.
So we can spend years trying to change ourselves from the outside…when the more
useful question might be:
What is happening subconsciously?
What does my mind actually believe?
How is this response protecting me?
What triggers me?
What old beliefs, emotional responses or protective strategies are still running?
And…
What would I like to choose instead?
That is the work we do together.
Not forcing yourself to “think positively”.
Not ‘shoulding’ on yourself.
We get underneath it all, and that, dear ones, is where real, long lasting change
happens.
You bring me the pattern and I’ll help you unlock it with the right key.
Depending on what we uncover, I may draw from:
- Rapid Transformational Therapy and hypnotherapy
- Deep transformational coaching
- Subconscious belief work
- Parts work and inner-system mapping
- Nervous-system awareness
- Rules of the Mind
- Identity and future-self work
- Behavioural integration
- Practical strategies for creating new responses in everyday life
We use the right tool for you.
Rather than trying to make you fit the tool.
MAYBE YOU RECOGNISE YOURSELF HERE
Do you:
- understand your behaviour but still can’t seem to change it
- repeatedly sabotage something you genuinely want, like abundance or a
love relationship - struggle with confidence or believing you’re good enough
- people-please, over-function or find boundaries difficult
- become reactive in important relationships
- procrastinate even when something matters deeply to you
- keep meeting different versions of the same relationship pattern.
- feel uncomfortable around money, success or visibility
- have an inner critic who never seems to take a day off
You don’t need to arrive with a perfect explanation.
Sometimes all you know is:
“Something keeps happening and I’m ready for it to be different.”
That’s enough.
Anything is possible when you open your mind to new beliefs, thoughts and feelings.
I’ve spent most of my career fascinated by one question:
What helps human beings change?
I began as a teacher, fascinated by children, development and human potential.
That work gradually led me into childbirth education, parent education, coaching and the mind-body connection.
For more than 25 years I have worked closely with people navigating some of the
biggest periods of transition in their lives.
And underneath so many of the struggles I saw was the same fascinating thing:
The mind develops patterns.
Ways of thinking. Ways of feeling. Ways of responding. Ways of protecting us.
Some serve us beautifully.
Others may have made perfect sense at another time in our lives but become less
helpful as we grow.
My fascination with this led me to train in hypnotherapy and Rapid Transformational Therapy with Marisa Peer, and later deepen my work in areas including the subconscious mind, nervous-system responses, inner parts and human transformation.
Today, I don’t believe one methodology is the answer to everything.
People are much more interesting than that.
My role is to listen carefully, help you see the patterns you may not be able to see
from inside them, and use the tools that best support the work we are doing together.
I am not here to fix you.
I am here to help you create the conditions for deep long lasting change.
OPTION ONE
THE ONE PATTERN RESET
When you can say:
“There is ONE thing I really want to change.”
A fear.
A reaction.
A belief.
A confidence block.
Procrastination.
Self-sabotage.
A relationship response.
Something around money or visibility.
Or simply a behaviour where you find yourself thinking:
“Why do I keep doing that?”
One Pattern Reset is focused private work designed to help us understand what is driving that particular pattern and begin creating a different response.
This may be the right starting point if:
- there is one clear issue you want to focus on
- you understand the problem logically but still repeat it
- you feel stuck in a particular belief, behaviour or emotional response
- you want focused therapeutic work rather than longer-term support
- you’re ready to explore what may be underneath the pattern
What's Included
1 x 60-minute Preparation & Mapping Session
We begin by understanding what is happening now.
What triggers the pattern?
What do you think, feel and do when it appears?
What have you already tried?
And most importantly:
What would you love to experience instead?
This session prepares both you and me for the deeper therapeutic work.
1 x 2-hour Rapid Transformational Therapy Session
This is where we explore beneath the conscious story.
We look at some of the beliefs, experiences and meanings that may have contributed to the pattern and begin working with the subconscious mind to create a different internal direction.
The goal isn’t to fight with your mind.
It is to understand what it has learned — and help it learn something new.
Your Personalised Transformation Audio
Following your RTT session, I create a recording specifically for you.
It uses the language, beliefs and direction that have emerged from our work together and is designed to reinforce those changes between sessions.
1 x 60-minute Integration Coaching Session
Because the work doesn’t stop when the RTT session ends.
We look at what you’ve noticed.
What has shifted.
What hasn’t.
Where the old response is still showing up.
And how you can continue strengthening the changes in everyday life.
YOUR INVESTMENT
$1,250 AUD
Personalised payment options are available on request.
One Pattern Reset is for you when you can say:
“I know the thing I want to work on.”
Tell me what you would like to change and we’ll work out whether One Pattern Reset is the right place to begin.
OPTION TWO
THE LIFE RECODE
Six Months Private With Tracey
When you know it’s bigger than one thing.
Sometimes you can’t point to one single problem.
It’s more like the same underlying pattern keeps turning up wearing different clothes.
It appears in your relationship.
Then your confidence.
Then money.
Then parenting.
Then your work.
Then boundaries.
Then the way you speak to yourself.
You may have already done a lot of work on yourself.
You may know where some of these patterns came from.
You may even be able to explain them beautifully.
And yet…
when the right trigger arrives, something familiar takes over.
That is when a single session may not be enough.
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LIFE RECODE IS MY DEEPEST PRIVATE WORK
Over six months, I have the opportunity to really get to know you.
Not just the issue you initially arrive with.
Your system.
Your patterns.
Your triggers.
Your protective responses.
The part that wants desperately to change.
And sometimes the other part that finds change rather terrifying.
Rather than trying to fix everything in one enormous burst, we give the work
something enormously valuable:
Time.
Time to explore.
Time to integrate.
Time to go back into your life and see what happens.
Time to notice the old response.
And time to practise something new.
Our work is intentionally spread across six months, with private sessions generally
occurring around once a fortnight.
Because transformation doesn’t only happen while you’re sitting with me.
It happens afterwards.
When you go home.
When life gets busy.
When somebody presses the proverbial button.
When you have the difficult conversation.
When you set the boundary.
When an opportunity appears.
When fear turns up.
When you suddenly notice yourself about to do exactly what you always do…
and there is a moment.
A pause.
A little bit of space.
And perhaps this time…
you choose differently.
That is what we are building.
Because a system that can choose is a healthier response.
THIS ISN’T SIX MONTHS OF “FIXING YOU”
There is no formula where I decide in advance exactly what you need.
Life Recode is personalised.
Depending on what emerges, our work may include:
Rapid Transformational Therapy.
Subconscious belief work.
Deep transformational coaching.
Parts work.
Inner-system mapping.
Nervous-system awareness.
Rules of the Mind.
Working with triggers and protective strategies.
Identity and future-self work.
Relationships and boundaries.
Behavioural integration.
The method follows the person.
Not the other way around.
WHAT’S INCLUDED IN YOUR SIX MONTHS
Your Life Recode Strategy & Mapping Session
We start by getting very clear about where you are now and where you want to go.
We begin identifying the deeper themes that may be operating across different areas of your life.
What keeps repeating?
What happens when you’re under stress?
What do you deeply want?
What seems to get in the way?
This becomes our map.
Not a rigid plan.
A starting point.
Up to Three Deep RTT / Therapeutic Sessions
Across our six months together, we can use extended RTT and deeper therapeutic sessions to work with significant subconscious patterns as they emerge.
Often the thing you arrive wanting to change leads us somewhere unexpected.
The first issue can be the doorway.
One pattern reveals another.
One belief sits underneath several behaviours.
We follow what your system actually shows us.
Personalised Transformation Audios
Where appropriate, I create personalised recordings from our deeper work together.
These help reinforce the beliefs, language and responses we are strengthening
between sessions.
Private Coaching & Integration Throughout the Six Months
This is an important part of Life Recode.
Because insight is lovely.
But eventually you have to take it home.
This is where we work with real life.
The conversation you’ve been avoiding.
The boundary.
The relationship trigger.
The opportunity you nearly talked yourself out of.
The old behaviour that suddenly appeared again.
The moment you did something differently.
Or the moment you didn’t.
There is no pass or fail here.
It is all information.
We use what happens between sessions to guide the next layer of our work.
Inner-System & Parts Work Where Appropriate
Sometimes there are different parts of us pulling in completely different directions.
The achiever.
The people-pleaser.
The controller.
The fixer.
The inner critic.
The avoider.
The frightened part.
The part that wants to be seen.
The part that would rather hide under the doona indefinitely.
Rather than trying to get rid of these parts, we become curious about them.
What are they protecting?
What do they believe?
What are they afraid would happen if they stopped doing their job?
And gradually you develop a different relationship with your own internal world.
Rules of the Mind & Mind Mastery
Throughout our work, I’ll also help you understand some of the ways the mind
responds to repetition, emotion, imagination, identity, familiar patterns and focused
attention.
Understanding your own mind is incredibly empowering.
Instead of constantly battling yourself…
you begin learning how to work with yourself.
Direct WhatsApp Support With Me
You will also have access to me via WhatsApp throughout our six months together.
Because sometimes the most useful therapeutic moment doesn’t happen
conveniently at 10am on appointment day.
It happens on Tuesday afternoon.
Right when the pattern unfolds in front of you.
You can reach out, tell me what you are noticing and receive some guidance to help you work with what is happening.
Your Personalised Integration Plan
As our six months draw to a close, we look at what has changed.
What have you learned about yourself?
Which patterns have softened?
What new responses need strengthening?
What will support you going forward?
We create a personalised plan for the months ahead.
Because ultimately…
I don’t want you to need me forever.
I want you to understand yourself better.
To notice what is happening sooner.
To trust yourself more.
And to have a greater capacity to choose what happens next.
LIFE RECODE MAY BE RIGHT FOR YOU IF…
You find yourself saying:
“I know this isn’t just one thing.”
“Different problems seem to have the same pattern underneath them.”
“I understand myself intellectually. I’m ready to change something more
deeply.”
“I’m tired of knowing better and still responding in the same old way.”
“I want time to integrate this work rather than rush through it.”
“I’m ready to invest in myself properly.”
“I’d like somebody experienced beside me while I do it.”
YOUR INVESTMENT
Six Months Private With Tracey
For this launch round, I’m opening just three private Life Recode places.
$800 per month for six months.
$200 per week 24 weeks.
6 monthly payments of $750
or
$4,500 paid in full (save $300)
This is six months of private one-to-one work with me, tailored entirely to you.
Tell me what keeps happening, what you’ve already tried and what you would dearly love to experience instead.
We’ll work out together whether Life Recode is the right next step.
Keep it simple.
“There is ONE thing I want to change.”
ONE PATTERN RESET
A focused process for one clear pattern or issue.
$1,250 AUD
“It’s bigger than one thing.”
LIFE RECODE
Six months of personalised private transformational work with Tracey.
$800 per month for six months
$200 per week 24 weeks.
or $4,500 paid in full (save $300)
Not Sure Where To Begin?
“I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA.”
That’s fine too.
You do not have to diagnose yourself.
You don’t need to decide whether you need RTT, parts work, coaching or something else before you speak to me.
That is exactly why I offer the Pattern Clarity Call.
Come and tell me what is happening.
We’ll start there.
Tracey’s intuitive and insightful nature perfectly compliments the Rapid Transformation Therapy process. I was amazed at how quickly my fears surfaced and I really value the way Tracey allowed my session to evolve in response to my own inner guidance. My RTT session helped me to gain a deeper understanding of an issue that had been difficult to shift using other methods. RTT certainly delivers everything that it promises in Tracey’s very capable and caring hands.
Initially I was nervous about working with fears that where holding me back, but at our first session Tracey’s kindness, sensitive listening and professionalism were reassuring, and her intuitive understanding and caring guidance helped me work through the RTT stages seamlessly. What resulted was an audio which was spot-on! Listening to the audio every day was easy to fit into my schedule, the 21 days flew by. What was amazing about this method was how quickly positive changes in my mindset came about and the new sense of inner joy and confidence that continues to increase to this day. I am now more courageous in taking positive steps towards my goals and my life is moving forward again! It is truly a wonderful therapy that I would highly recommend.
Georgia
I came to Tracey with a long life issue deeply etched in my psyche. Having tried to shift this issue many times over the years I was not overly confident that change could be made. Tracey spent considerable time listening to understand the inner beliefs that have influenced my holding patterns. She then extracted a picture of how I’d like to see myself, reaching my fullest potential.
Tracey is obviously a very intuitive and sensitive facilitator. She created a safe space for me to delve back into my subconscious, then skillfully moved forward, re-wiring and re-writing my story in a beautifully articulate and positive way. The recording I received was a joy to listen to – taking me daily into a deeply relaxed space where the new pathways could be reinforced. I have no doubt that things are beginning to shift and now totally believe in the power of this transformational process.
I felt like I was swimming in a swamp of out dated programming, negative beliefs and traumas. Basically, everything in my life that I had pushed down for so long was coming to the surface to be felt and seen. I had never done RTT before but was in a space where I would try anything that would assist me in shifting these toxic thinking patterns that had been running the show for way too long.
I wasn’t sure how it worked or even if it would work, but trusted that Tracey would guide me through. After 1 session I felt like a weight had been lifting from my shoulders. I could now see clearly where my inner child learnt to be so defensive and protect herself and where all the lack of stability and self-confidence came from.
I know I have to continue the work and listen to my recording to reprogram my brain. I’m happy to report that I’m feeling the positive words more and more in myself every time I listen. How important it is for everyone to get a chance to unlock these things that are holding us back from truly feeling free to be our fun-loving selves.
Tracey’s work is phenomenal! After a session of Rapid Transformational
Since the
Listening to the audio sessions kept reinforcing all the inner qualities I want to focus on and cement the new beliefs I wanted to embrace
Tracey was astounding: compassionate, intuitive, and highly skilled in helping me re-frame my experiences. The 13-minute voice recording was a joy to listen to each night. I’m happy to report I have seen important changes in my life in the area I asked Tracey to help with. I highly recommend her work. Thank you, Tracey!
Tegan
What can RTT do for you?
Rapid Transformational Therapy — RTT — is one of the tools I use in my private
work.
RTT draws on hypnotherapy and therapeutic techniques to help us explore some of the beliefs, meanings and experiences held at a subconscious level.
You remain involved in the process.
This isn’t someone taking control of your mind.
It is a way of creating the conditions to become deeply focused, explore what may sit underneath a pattern and introduce new perspectives and responses.
For some people, RTT forms the core of the work.
For others, coaching, parts work and integration become equally important.
Again…
we use what you need.
FAQs
Do I have to know which package I need before I book a call?
No.
In fact, I’d rather you didn’t spend three days trying to diagnose yourself from my website.
Tell me what is happening.
Tell me what you want to change.
I can help you work out the most appropriate place to begin.
How do I know whether I need One Pattern Reset or Life Recode?
As a general guide:
If you can clearly say “THIS is the thing I want to change,” One Pattern Reset may be enough.
If you can see the same deeper themes showing up across several parts of your life, or you want ongoing support while you create change, Life Recode may be more appropriate.
We can decide that together.
Why does Life Recode run for six months?
Because I want you to have time to integrate the work.
A breakthrough in a therapy room is valuable.
But the real question is:
What happens when you return to your actual life?
Spacing our work gives you time to notice what changes, practise new responses
and bring what happens in real life back into our sessions.
How often do we meet during Life Recode?
Our work is generally spaced around once a fortnight across the six-month period.
Some sessions may involve deeper therapeutic work such as RTT, while others
focus more on coaching, integration, inner-system work and what is emerging in your everyday life.
The process is shaped around what you need.
What if something comes up between Life Recode sessions?
You have WhatsApp access to me during your six months.
That means you can share important observations, triggers or breakthroughs as they happen rather than trying to remember everything until our next conversation.
Do you only use RTT?
No.
RTT is a powerful part of my work, but it is not the only way I work.
I draw on several therapeutic and coaching approaches depending on the pattern, the person and what emerges through the process. (Internal Family systems, neuroscience principles, nervous system work and counselling.)
Is this a replacement for medical or psychiatric care?
No.
This work supports personal, emotional, subconscious and behavioural change.
It is not a substitute for medical care, psychiatric care, crisis support or treatment from an appropriately qualified health professional when that is needed.
If you are currently under the care of another health professional, continue following their advice.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE IT ALL FIGURED OUT
Perhaps you’ve known for a while that something needs to change.
Perhaps you’ve only just started noticing the pattern.
Perhaps part of you is ready…
and another part is already producing seventeen excellent reasons why now isn’t the right time.
That’s human.
You don’t have to arrive certain.
You simply have to be curious enough to begin.
Spend 15 minutes with me.
Tell me:
What keeps happening?
Where are you getting stuck?
What have you already tried?
And what would you dearly love to experience instead?
Then we can decide what — if anything — makes sense as your next step.
Let’s start with the pattern.